Transformational Parenting Blog

The Meaning of Life...

1/6/2018

Finding the meaning in life.

Mostly, when we think about the meaning of life, we are thinking in broad terms of overarching material success or fame. We think of the great literary achievements of Herman Charles Bosman or JK Rowling. We think of the political and humanitarian strides of Nelson Mandela or Martin Luther King Jr. We think of the scientific advancements of Albert Einstein or Marie Curie. Or the sporting breakthroughs of Steffi Graf and Roger Bannister.

But for the vast majority of us, this will not be the case. It is easy, then, to assume the meaninglessness of existence; Depression being a natural response to feeling like you are just not making it in this life.

Starting At Home...

1/5/2018

Be the change you want to see in your children.

It can feel overwhelming when we look out at the world and see the chaos out there. There is so much that needs fixing. So many people who need help. So much pollution. Where to begin?

We all want to leave the world better than when we found it. We all want to ensure that our children inherit a habitat that we would be proud of. But as just one person or family what difference can we possibly make?

"If you think you are too small to make a difference try spending the night with a mosquito." - African Proverb

To Answer or Not To Answer? That Is The Question.

2/4/2018

Parenting coach, Mia Von Scha, answers your parenting questions.

When I first had kids I thought it was important to answer them when they asked a question. So when they hit the “why?” stage (and mine were close together so they were both doing it at the same time) I was answering upward of 50 questions every hour almost every hour of the day.

One day as we were going for a walk they asked me why all the dogs in the neighbourhood barked as we went past. I told them that the dogs are protecting their property and think we might be burglars. To which my 3 year old replied, “You're not a burglar you're the answer lady!”

You Are Not A Good Parent...

1/3/2018

How to let go of parenting guilt and just be real!

We put so much pressure on ourselves to be good parents. We try to give our kids loving stable homes, send them to good schools, be patient when they freak out, feed them the right foods, set up fun play dates, buffer their emotions, help them achieve their goals, and a multitude of other daily tasks and thoughts to do with their wellbeing and overall levels of happiness. Because that is what good parents do.

The truth? You are not a good parent.

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids...

1/2/2018

How to raise emotionally intelligent children.

Did you know that in the languages of Sweden, Norway and Finland, where they experience long snow-filled winters, there are as many as 180 snow and ice related words. That’s a lot of ways to talk about something we just call, well, snow and ice. Imagine how differently snow would appear to you if you had so many ways to describe it rather than just cold, wet and white!

Now think about how much richer your child’s emotional life would be if they could describe what they were feeling with more words than just happy, sad and mad.

What Are You Missing?

3/1/2018

What you need in order to have an amazing year.

2017 was a tough year for many people. There was the recession and it’s accompanying financial difficulties; there were crazy weather patterns with hurricanes, droughts, floods and fires that left many homeless or worse; we had racist flare ups and mass shootings and unspeakable acts towards women; and we had people in power positions who many feel shouldn’t even be allowed to breathe let alone run countries!

So as we head into the New Year many of us may be asking ourselves if it’s even possible to have a good year. And the next question that usually comes up is what it is that we're missing to have this great year that we so desperately want.

How To Let Go Of Control And Still Get What You Really Want...

1/12/2017

Parenting advice on letting go of control and still getting what you really want.

There are so many articles, books, self help courses and self-development webinars out there to help us to “get what we really want”. You want success or fame or more money or kids who behave well or the perfect marriage? You’ve got some work to do. You need to set goals and control your own thoughts and behavior and manage your emotions and be consistent with your discipline… and what it all really boils down to is control. Control your thoughts, control your behavior, control your spending habits, teach yourself and your children to have self-control, and most importantly, have control over your own future.

But we’ve missed a step here. If you want to get what you really want, then the first question you need to ask is what specifically is it that you really want?

The Perfectionist Issue...

1/11/2017

Life coaching that offers you peaceful alternatives in your parenting without the judgement.

A child told me recently that her mother gives her hidings when she is being “naughty”. I was quite surprised. I’ve had a number of conversations with her mother about parenting concepts and managing relationships with our kids and this is something that has never come up.

Which got me to wondering whether she deliberately avoided the topic with me because I come across as judgemental. And on the topic of spanking, I surmised that perhaps I do. I don’t spank my own kids. I don’t advocate it as a way of handling “misbehavior” (mostly because I don’t believe in misbehavior in the first place – to me, all behavior is a form of communication), and of course, what I write about is usually pro some kind of peaceful parenting.

But…. Although I come across as completely child-focused and gentle in my parenting approach, do I judge people who spank their kids? No. And here is the reason why…

10 Tips For Raising Creative Kids...

4/10/2017

Tips for raising creative children from life coach, Mia Von Scha.

The word out of Silicone Valley is that none of us should be making goals beyond 3-5 years. Why? Because within that time frame around 80% of the jobs that we currently know will be obsolete. You heard me, obsolete. Technology and specifically robotics are progressing much faster than most of us realize and already there are robots taking over many of the jobs in the USA and abroad.

So what on earth do they suggest that we do? And what is to become of our children, most of whom are still in a schooling system that trains them for the current market place?

Do Your Children Really Know That You Love Them?

1/9/2017

How to make sure that your children really know that they are loved.

Most people don't know how they are seen by other people. Most of us don’t really know that we are loved, or why, or how much we are loved.

Over the past six years of working with clients on their limiting beliefs and the things that are holding them back, what comes up more often than any other idea is that almost all of us believe that we’re not ok, that we’re not good enough, and that we’re not lovable.

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