Do you set New Year’s Resolutions with your kids? And how many of you actually fulfill yours? I’m betting that the majority of you put some great effort into changing your behaviors and patterns early on in the year and by around April (if not before) these have become a distant memory along with last year’s Christmas pudding!
If you want to know why this is, read on, because most of us are trying to achieve things in the wrong order…
If you want to know why this is, read on, because most of us are trying to achieve things in the wrong order…
The results that we have in our lives, whether these be our weight, bank balance, relationships or whatnot, are all created by our behavior. And so we generally try to make changes at the level of behavior. But it doesn’t end there.
Your behavior is influenced greatly by the state that you’re in. I’m sure you’ll agree that there are days where you wake up excited and full of energy and that your behavior on these days is different to those days where you wake up miserable and demotivated. So if we really want to have some choice over the behaviors we’re producing (and therefore our results) then we need to be in control of our state. Which we all know is not always the case!
Why? Because our state is caused by our conditioning - some very unconscious beliefs that are running on autopilot in the background.
It looks like this:
Conditioning -> State -> Behaviour -> Results
I believe I am a fat person -> I feel miserable -> I eat the cake -> I put on weight
So step number one in fulfilling your New Year’s Resolutions is to examine your beliefs. Ask yourself if they’re really true and who you would be without them. If they’re not serving you, challenge them and let them go. And then focus on your state. If you want to lose weight (or whatever else your goal is) in order to be happy, take note of the sequence above – STATE always comes BEFORE results. Not after! So choose the state now and the results will follow.
Happiness is a choice, not a result. Teach your kids this and they will be happy forever, and they’ll never need to set New Year’s Resolutions because they will already be attracting into their lives everything they want.
Not convinced? Read my pre-study for an in-depth look at how you are creating your reality and how you can do this better and help your kids to do the same.
And then create for yourself and your family an incredible 2013!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Your behavior is influenced greatly by the state that you’re in. I’m sure you’ll agree that there are days where you wake up excited and full of energy and that your behavior on these days is different to those days where you wake up miserable and demotivated. So if we really want to have some choice over the behaviors we’re producing (and therefore our results) then we need to be in control of our state. Which we all know is not always the case!
Why? Because our state is caused by our conditioning - some very unconscious beliefs that are running on autopilot in the background.
It looks like this:
Conditioning -> State -> Behaviour -> Results
I believe I am a fat person -> I feel miserable -> I eat the cake -> I put on weight
So step number one in fulfilling your New Year’s Resolutions is to examine your beliefs. Ask yourself if they’re really true and who you would be without them. If they’re not serving you, challenge them and let them go. And then focus on your state. If you want to lose weight (or whatever else your goal is) in order to be happy, take note of the sequence above – STATE always comes BEFORE results. Not after! So choose the state now and the results will follow.
Happiness is a choice, not a result. Teach your kids this and they will be happy forever, and they’ll never need to set New Year’s Resolutions because they will already be attracting into their lives everything they want.
Not convinced? Read my pre-study for an in-depth look at how you are creating your reality and how you can do this better and help your kids to do the same.
And then create for yourself and your family an incredible 2013!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
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